You are capable, you are smart and you’re here because you want to make your mark on the world, so don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. You have value—intrinsic value—and this value has nothing to do with what someone else thinks of you or what they think your worth should be in the workplace or in life. Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth, and that means you shouldn’t let the opinions of others affect how you feel about yourself.
Why you should never let someone else’s opinion of you define your worth
For a long time, I let people’s opinions of me define my worth. I would think about how they saw me and made me feel, and it would determine what I wore, what I did with my hair, and who I spent time with. It was exhausting.
I’ve learned over the years that your value is not based on someone else’s inability to see your worth. You can be kind and gentle without being submissive. You can be confident without being cocky. You don’t need someone else’s validation in order for you to know your worth; it has been there all along – waiting for you to discover it.
How to deal with people who try to bring you down
Trying to change your mindset when you’re dealing with toxic people can be tough. You may feel like their negativity is rubbing off on you and that their inability to see your worth means there is something wrong with you. But remember, it’s not your job to fix them or make them happy; they are just projecting their own insecurities onto you. Remember that no matter what they say, your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth.
Why it’s important to surround yourself with people who appreciate you
Surrounding yourself with people who appreciate you will help make you feel valued. If you’re in a toxic relationship or friendship, it can be hard to focus on your own needs because you’re worried about what the other person might think of you. It’s important that we take care of ourselves and our mental health. One way to do this is by surrounding yourself with people who make us feel good about ourselves and believe in our abilities.
How to increase your own self-worth
Learning how to increase your own self-worth is a process. You’ll never be perfect and you’ll mess up sometimes, but that’s okay! Here are some tips for increasing your own self-worth:
- Identify what makes you feel good about yourself
- Focus on those things
- Focus on your strengths instead of your weaknesses
- Stop comparing yourself with others and accept who you are