You might not realize it, but your words have the power to shape your experiences of life in almost every way. They can make you happy or they can make you sad. They can lift up others or tear down their self-esteem. By choosing your words carefully, you can control the kind of life you experience, helping yourself and others see things from a better perspective and foster more positive growth and development in yourself and those around you. It’s worth giving some thought to how you use your language, since it has so much potential to impact the quality of your life!
What are you saying?
Most people have heard the phrase sticks and stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me. This phrase implies that words are harmless. However, this is not true. Your words have the ability to shape your experience of life. We don’t always think about how what we say impacts other people. When you use hurtful or negative language, you might be feeding into feelings of inadequacy or lack of worth in another person’s mind. The power of your words should be used carefully because they can either empower or disempower someone else depending on how they are used.
The role of intention
Choosing our words wisely is a powerful way to shape our experience. Think about it for a moment: What do you want your day-to-day life to be like? What kind of relationships do you want? What kind of work do you want? We can use our words in order to get what we want, and this starts with becoming more aware.
Speaking with kindness
There are so many ways that you can use your words to shape your experience. The way we speak not only has a direct affect on our happiness, but it can also have an effect on those around us. Speaking with kindness will not only help you feel better, it will help those around you as well. Try speaking in ways that make others feel loved, valued, and cared for. Make your words powerful by choosing them wisely.
Practicing gratitude is a simple way to find joy in life. As you practice gratitude, you’ll find that it is much easier to be kinder and more generous with others. It’s also easier to take care of yourself when you know what you appreciate about your life.
1) Start by noticing all the things around you for which you’re grateful. 2) Make a list if that helps or just think about each one as it comes up–you might be surprised at how many things there are! 3) The most important thing is not how many things on your list are material possessions, but rather how good they make you feel inside.
Fill your own cup first
I’m a writer, so I know all about being in a constant state of writing. There are days when I get so excited about what I’m writing that I can’t stop. Other days, when things aren’t going my way, it feels like everything’s falling apart. One day last month, I was feeling super discouraged and frustrated because my writing just wasn’t working. And then someone told me something that changed everything. They said this: Fill your own cup first before you try to fill other people’s cups with words. And with that one sentence, they reminded me how important it is to put myself first. To make sure that my cup is full before trying to fill other people’s cups with words.
The power of No
It’s surprising how many times we need to say ‘no’ in our lives. It can be difficult, but it can also be incredibly liberating. The next time you’re faced with an opportunity or request, think about whether or not it’s something that aligns with your goals and values. And when it comes down to it, if there is any doubt, just say ‘no’.
Surround yourself with positive people
Your words have the ability to shape your experience of life. Choose them wisely. Surround yourself with positive people, affirmations, mantras, and books that inspire you to become a better version of yourself. Do not spend time with those who bring negativity into your life.
Let go of negative self-talk
Negative self-talk is an inner dialogue that you have with yourself. It is a voice inside your head telling you what’s wrong with you, how stupid you are, or how much of a failure you are. It’s something that we all do from time to time, but if left unchecked, it can take over your life. Negative self-talk is often based on fear – fear about what people might think about us or fear about what we might see in ourselves when we start looking too closely at our lives. The antidote for negative self-talk is self-compassion. When we’re hard on ourselves, it’s an indication that we need more compassion – not judgment – from others.
Use affirmative statements
What are some words that come to mind when thinking about your perfect day? Write down these words as they represent the way you want to feel when choosing them wisely.
Keep this list close by and read through it often while making decisions throughout the day.
Visualize what you want
Pretend you’re standing in front of a mirror, looking at yourself. Imagine what your life would be like if you got all the things you wanted. Visualize it as vividly as possible. See how happy you are, what your day-to-day life looks like, how much money is coming into your bank account every month, who’s in your life, where you live… All those things. And then ask yourself this question: What are some words that come to mind when I imagine my perfect life?