Life is a complex web of events, feelings, and choices. Like a good writer, we hold the pen that shapes our story, and like a good reader, we can look into our mind and see how it works. Self-discovery is a deep journey that leads to a better understanding of who we are. As we learn to be both writers and readers, we gain the skills to handle life’s challenges with confidence, independence, and less need for outward validation. In this blog, we talk about how important it is to know yourself and how that frees us from needing other people’s praise.
The Writer: Writing the Story of Your Life
Every day is a blank page that we can fill with our ideas, actions, and decisions. As the author of our own lives, it is up to us to make a story that fits with our interests, values, and goals. Taking on this job gives us the power to:
Set Clear Intentions: If we know what really means to us, we can set clear intentions and act in a way that helps us reach our goals. This helps us live a life that is meaningful and full.
- Take ownership: When we take charge of our lives, we can be responsible for our wins, failures, and choices. Instead of just sitting back and watching, we take an active role in our trip.
- Be open to change. As writers, we can change and edit our stories. As we learn that life is always changing and that our stories can always be changed, it becomes easier to accept change.
The Reader: Getting to Know Yourself
Each of us has a treasure chest full of thoughts, feelings, and unconscious habits. To become the reader of our own minds, we need to become more self-aware and learn to watch without judging. Taking on this role gives us:
Self-awareness: Knowing how we think, how we feel, and what sets us off helps us make good choices and handle situations with wisdom and grace.
- Emotional regulation: Being able to notice our feelings without being overwhelmed gives us the power to handle life’s obstacles with more strength and calm.
- Personal Growth: We can work towards personal growth and continuous self-improvement if we know our skills and weaknesses.
Self-knowledge gives you less need for approval from other people.
The power of self-knowledge is unlocked as we learn more about ourselves and become both writers and readers. With this new understanding comes a sense of inner peace, self-confidence, and less need for other people’s praise. This is how it shows up:
- Authenticity: Knowing ourselves gives us a sense of being real, so we can live in line with who we really are instead of looking for approval from outside sources.
Inner Fulfilment: When we depend less on what other people think of us, we find more happiness from within by enjoying the beauty of our own journey.
- Resilience: When we know ourselves and believe in ourselves, we are less affected by the judgements and views of others. We can stay on our path even when others criticise us.
Accept that you are both the author and the reader of your own story. By writing your life with purpose, authenticity, and ownership and reading your mind with curiosity and self-compassion, you set yourself up for deep self-discovery and empowerment. The more you know about yourself, the less you need other people to validate you. You can easily move through the chapters of your life with a deep sense of self-assurance and inner fulfilment. Remember that self-discovery is an ongoing process, and every moment is a chance to write your own story and watch your own mind.
