When you expect nothing, you’re always pleasantly surprised. This phrase, so simple and yet so meaningful, can be applied to nearly every aspect of life. Whether it’s the result of not having expectations or the result of having no expectations at all, it’s the perfect way to keep yourself from being disappointed and make sure you always have room to grow and surprise yourself and others. Here are just five ways you can use this little life lesson when it comes to some of the most important parts of your life today.
It felt terrible.
Have you ever been hurt? Have something bad happen to you that really knocked your socks off? I have and let me tell you what it felt like. It felt terrible. It was one of the most emotional moments of my life and it took a while for me to get back on my feet and feel like myself again. It had been a very long time since I’ve experienced anything close to that level of pain so when it happened I was completely unprepared for how intense it would be. The feelings were raw and real… in an instant everything changed for me when this thing happened that I wasn’t expecting at all. When you expect nothing, though, there’s no room for disappointment because the only way is up from there!
Why do we set expectations?
Setting expectations is often a way to minimize disappointment and maximize enjoyment. But in order to do this effectively, we need to be realistic with what is expected of us. For example:
-If we are going on a ski trip and it’s our first time skiing, it would be unrealistic of us to expect ourselves to be as good at skiing as someone who has been doing it for years
-We should also set expectations within the realm of what is possible for us and our current situation; if we have an injury that prevents us from being able to walk more than a few feet without pain, setting an expectation of walking six miles may not be realistic or beneficial
What are the benefits of having no expectations?
When I have low expectations for something, I am never let down and I’m always pleasantly surprised. This is because my expectations are so low that they are almost nonexistent to begin with and the best possible scenario becomes my baseline scenario.
For instance, when I eat out at a restaurant with family or friends, the food is going to be decent at best and it will probably not be anything special in terms of taste or presentation. But that’s all right because it has already been established before going into the restaurant that this is what to expect from a typical meal out with friends or family; we know what kind of service we are going to receive and we know what food is going to be on the menu.
How can we live without expectations?
If you don’t have expectations for the future it’s easier to enjoy today and be happy with your life. When you don’t have expectations you are never disappointed or frustrated when things don’t go your way because they weren’t what you expected them to be in the first place. There is no disappointment when things fall short of our expectations because we had none to begin with; we just appreciate what was given to us and move on. Life is unpredictable so it’s best not to have any set standards in mind but instead live in the moment and take everything as it comes.
The Universe doesn’t owe us anything
The reality is that the Universe doesn’t owe us anything and we really have to work for what we want in life. When I no longer expected anything from the Universe I was able to appreciate the little things when they happened and didn’t spend my time bemoaning my lack of abundance. And guess what? The Universe had other plans…