When you fall in love, it’s natural to want to express it in word and deed. You want the other person to know how much they mean to you, so you shower them with compliments and gifts, not to mention written proof of your affection. But rather than building up the other person’s self-esteem, showing your love this way can have the opposite effect—you might be making them feel like they need to prove their love for you too!
Asking for proof devalues love
Hey, how much do you love me? What’s the proof? Do you really think I would marry someone who doesn’t love me more than anything in the world? Do you really think I would spend my life with someone who doesn’t make me feel like I’m the most important person on earth? Who doesn’t make me feel beautiful and loved every single day?
Proof is not always reliable
Many people will say that they love you, but not always in the same way. There are so many different ways to show someone that they’re important to you. You could spend time with them, do things for them, or just send a text message to let them know you’re thinking about them. The point is, not everyone is going to be able to prove their love the same way and it doesn’t mean they don’t care. Don’t ask for proof because sometimes it can be hard for someone else to give it. Just take their word and if it’s something important then work on trusting them instead of questioning everything they do.
Take love for granted and feel more confident
Trust your gut. If you’ve been dating someone for a while and they’re still not asking you to commit, take it as a sign that they’re not feeling the same way. Don’t try to force something that’s not there – it will just lead to hurt feelings and heartache.
If someone has told you that they love you, take them at their word and don’t ask for proof. There are many reasons why someone might be afraid of commitment or scared of being vulnerable with the person they love, but the truth is that most people who say I love you really do mean it.
How to take love for granted in your relationship
- You should take your partner for granted when they do something sweet and you think, Wow. They are so thoughtful.
- You should take your partner for granted when they make you a priority and put in the effort to prioritize you too.
- You should take your partner for granted if they tell you that they love you and mean it with every fiber of their being.
- You should take your partner for granted if their actions match what they say, because words only matter so much until we see them act out on what is said to us or to others in front of us.