The best way to deal with difficult people in your life isn’t to tell them off or walk away; it’s to learn how to respond to them in a healthy way so that you can maintain balance and peace in your life, too. It’s far easier said than done, though, because even if you are naturally calm and collected, there are times when something or someone shakes you up or pushes your buttons or tests your patience—and then what do you do? How do you respond? What do you say?
1) Just breathe
It’s important to note that difficult doesn’t always equal bad. Sometimes someone might be difficult because they’re having a really bad day and you’re just not aware of it. Other times, it may be that this person just has a different opinion from you and wants to share it. Either way, there are some ways you can keep your cool when dealing with them.
First off, try not to get too emotional over what they are saying.
When faced with a difficult situation, it can be easy to let emotions get the better of you. There are many things you can do to keep yourself on an even keel and maintain peace of mind.
3) Practice these mantras
- It’s not personal; it’s just business. 2. It may be their opinion, but it’s not the truth. 3. You are a work in progress and you are doing the best you can with what you have. 4. I will not take anything personally today. 5. This too shall pass.
- Use self-talk and self-awareness to stay calm. 2. Separate yourself from a situation in order to control your emotions and not react with anger or frustration. 3. Take care of yourself by eating well, getting enough sleep, and exercising regularly. 4. Stay focused on what you want rather than what others want for you or expect from you
5) Don’t take anything personally
One of the most important things to remember when dealing with difficult people is that what they say and do has nothing to do with you. They may be having a bad day, or maybe their family life isn’t what they want it to be. Whatever their reasons are for acting out, it’s not about you. The only person it does affect is yourself if you let it get to you and cause you any stress or anxiety.
6) Prioritize what is important in life
It’s important to prioritize what’s most important in life. Spend time with the people you care about, eat well, and try to sleep at least 7 hours a night. You’ll be more balanced and less likely to respond negatively when faced with a difficult person.
7) Look at the bigger picture
The more calm and centered you are, the harder it will be for others to disturb you. Just remember that not everyone has your same perspective and that there are two sides to every story. If someone else’s words or actions bother you, step back and ask yourself if they’re worth getting upset over. How would you react if their behavior happened in reverse? Always try to see both sides of a situation before reacting negatively. The more calm and centered you are, the harder it will be for others to disturb you.
8) Laugh it off
If someone tries to get a rise out of you and they’re not succeeding, it may be time for them to just give up. If they’re not getting anything from you, then it’s time for them to find their next victim. Keep calm and carry on.