Make others comfortable and you will see that nature will take care of Your Comfort..
How to Make Others Comfortable and Ensure Your Own Comfort in the Process
Most of us want to be liked and accepted by others, so we are highly attuned to how the people around us are feeling. Unfortunately, this can lead to paying too much attention to their comfort at our own expense, when instead we should be making sure that we’re comfortable and getting what we need as well. If you learn how to make others comfortable, you will benefit in numerous ways—most importantly because the other people in your life will enjoy your company more, but also because they’ll be more inclined to give you the things that you need.
The psychology of comfort
When people are not comfortable, they can become irritable, which is why it’s important to make others feel at ease. When you make others feel comfortable, you will see that nature will take care of your comfort. An easy way to do this is with a pleasant greeting. Studies show that when someone greets you with a smile, it makes them more approachable and better able to read other people’s emotions accurately. This is because smiling changes the tone of voice, facial expressions, and body language, making it easier for those who we interact with on a regular basis to understand what we’re feeling or thinking without having to interpret our words or actions.
Making others comfortable
One way to make others comfortable is to take care of yourself first. If you are feeling overwhelmed, or if you are feeling as though you cannot get a word in edgewise, it is best that you excuse yourself for a moment. You should also be mindful of your body language, as this will tell people how they should feel about themselves. For example, hunched shoulders might convey that there is something wrong or that someone needs help. Let them know how much you appreciate their company with eye contact and by smiling. Additionally, ask them questions about themselves so they don’t feel like they have nothing to contribute during conversation.
What to do when someone is not comfortable
If someone is not comfortable, you might be able to help them by first asking if they need anything. If they do, offer it promptly. If there is nothing that can be done, then ask what would make them more comfortable. Sometimes people are not happy with a physical space or lack of privacy, so moving somewhere else might make them feel more at ease. It can also be helpful to try changing the topic of conversation if it seems as though there is something on their mind that’s making them uncomfortable. And lastly, if your friend does not want to talk about what’s bothering them but you think there may be a problem, let them know that you care about their well-being and will always listen when they’re ready.
Taking care of yourself
-Start with a coffee date-
-Talk about what they’re doing, their goals, and how you can help them reach those goals-
-Offer your services at a low cost–some people won’t be able to afford your services right away but may be ready in a few months or years.
-Allow them the opportunity to try out your services for free–if it doesn’t work out for either of you, no hard feelings.
-Send them an email after your meeting–thank them for meeting with you, let them know that if they have any questions or need anything else from you please feel free to contact me anytime.
The first step is always awareness.
The first step is always awareness. Take a moment to think about your own feelings on comfort. What are your triggers? What are your needs? What would make you feel at ease? The next time you’re out with friends, family or colleagues, look for ways that people might be feeling uncomfortable- could it be body language, eye contact, posture, facial expressions? Once you’ve identified these things, try to do something about them! Ask questions, offer assistance and support. If someone is struggling with something that doesn’t involve you at all- for instance they want more space but don’t know how- then offer them space. It’s often as simple as that!
